Healing requires nurture, self-nurture and caring from
others. To heal a person has to do the
work. Many have to take steps, such as,
acknowledging the feelings, experiencing them, putting the experience in
perspective, accepting that the injury occurred, acknowledging helplessness to
reverse the event or condition and adjusting.
Two
strategies which impede healing are seeking revenge or engaging in
self-indulgence. To seek revenge
requires holding the bitter anger and hurt tightly to prevent the memory from
fading or the feelings diminishing. If
the feelings are allowed to ‘slip away” the “abuser wins” or the wrong is
condoned. Holding the hurt and anger tightly prevents the individual from
letting go and moving on.
Self-indulgence in guilty pleasure hinders to the person’s ability to
maintain, regain or establish self-respect.
That keeps the “victim” “off-balance” and hinders healing, which
requires courage.
i wrote this down thinking it was profound. Then I started to read Chapter #3 and my musings seemed so superficial by comparison, another "lesson in humility."
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